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Mid-April '14

April is National Autism Awareness Month in the United States. A recent report from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention found that 1 in 68 children in the U.S. are diagnosed with some form of autism—and incidence rates are on the rise in many other counties as well. Read Autism Symptoms & Early Signs so you can spot the earliest warning signs.


Co-parenting amicably with your ex can give your children stability and close relationships with both parents—but it's rarely easy. Tips for Divorced Parents shows you how to cooperate and communicate with your ex to make joint custody work and do what's best for your children.


Emotional hunger can't be filled with food. Eating when you're stressed, bored, or upset may feel good in the moment, but the feelings that triggered the eating will still be there afterwards. Read Emotional Eating to overcome food cravings and find healthier ways to feed your feelings.


Recognizing and Understanding the Signs of Autism in Children

Autism Symptoms & Early Signs

Autism is a spectrum of closely related disorders with a shared core of symptoms. Autism spectrum disorders appear in infancy and early childhood, causing delays in many basic areas of development such as learning to talk, play, and interact with others.


There are different opinions among doctors, parents, and experts about what causes autism and how best to treat it, and much that we still don't know. But on one fact, everyone agrees: early and intensive intervention helps. For children at risk and children who show early signs, it can make all the difference.


To learn more, read Autism Symptoms & Early Signs.



Tips for Divorced Parents

Tips for Divorced ParentsJoint custody arrangements, especially after an acrimonious split, can be exhausting and infuriating. It can be extremely difficult to get past the painful history you may have with your ex and overcome any built-up resentment. Making shared decisions, interacting with each another at drop-offs, or just speaking to a person you'd rather forget all about can seem like impossible tasks. But while it's true that co-parenting isn't an easy solution, it is the best way to ensure your children's needs are met and they are able to retain close relationships with both parents.


Despite the many challenges, though, it is possible to develop a cordial working relationship with your ex for the sake of your children.


To learn more, read Tips for Divorced Parents .

Emotional Eating

Emotional Eating

Using food from time to time as a pick me up, a reward, or to celebrate isn't necessarily a bad thing. But when eating is your primary emotional coping mechanism—when your first impulse is to open the refrigerator whenever you're upset, angry, lonely, stressed, exhausted, or bored—you get stuck in an unhealthy cycle where the real feeling or problem is never addressed.


Learning to recognize your emotional eating triggers is the first step to breaking free from food cravings and compulsive overeating, and changing the habits that have sabotaged your diets in the past.


Read more at Emotional Eating .



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April 2014

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April '14

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For many of us living alone, preparing meals often involves ordering fast food or heating up a TV dinner. But in Cooking for One you can learn how to prepare quick, healthy, and inexpensive meals for yourself—or to share with others.


Is snoring causing a rift in your relationship? Loss of sleep from snoring can strain any relationship and put your health at risk. Read How to Stop Snoring for tips to overcome the problem and get a restful night's sleep.


No one is more deserving of a healthy lifestyle than our returning veterans and their families. If you or someone you know is having a hard time readjusting to life outside the military, read PTSD in Veterans and PTSD in the Family. The symptoms of PTSD aren't easy to live with, but there are ways to feel better.


Cooking for Yourself

Cooking for One

Today, more and more of us live alone, either through choice or circumstances. As a single person, finding the motivation to cook for yourself can be difficult, especially after a long day at work. And coming up with meal ideas and finding recipes for one person can seem like chore, even if you know how to cook and have a full kitchen at your disposal.


The key to cooking for one is to master a few basic skills, stock up on essential ingredients, and get creative in making meals that work specifically for you. After all, that's the great thing about cooking for one: you don't have to please anyone but yourself.


To learn more, read Cooking for One.



Stop Snoring

How to Stop SnoringNot all snoring is the same. In fact, everyone snores for different reasons. When you get to the bottom of why you snore, then you can find the right solutions to a quieter, deeper sleep.


People who snore often have too much throat and nasal tissue, or “floppy” tissue that is more prone to vibrate. The position of your tongue can also get in the way of smooth breathing. Evaluating how and when you snore will help you pinpoint whether the cause of your snoring is within your control or not. The good news is that no matter how and when you snore, there are solutions to making your snoring better.


Read more at How to Stop Snoring.

PTSD Recovery for Veterans

PTSD in Veterans

We don't know why some soldiers develop PTSD and others don't, but we do know that the incidence goes up with the number of tours and the amount of combat you experienced. This isn't surprising, considering many symptoms of PTSD—like hypervigilance, hyperawareness, and adrenaline-quick reflexes—helped you survive when you were deployed. It's only now that you're back home that these responses are inappropriate.


It's hard living with untreated PTSD and, with long V.A. wait times, it's easy to get discouraged. But you can feel better, and you can start today, even while you're waiting for professional treatment.


Read more at PTSD in Veterans.

PTSD in the Family

PTSD in the FamilyPTSD can take a heavy toll on friends and family members, and relationship difficulties are common. It can be hard to understand your loved one's behavior—why he or she is less affectionate and more volatile. You may feel like you're walking on eggshells or living with a stranger. You may even be afraid of the person. The symptoms of PTSD can also result in job loss, substance abuse, and other stressful problems that affect the whole family.


Anger, irritability, depression, apathy, mistrust, and negativity are common PTSD symptoms that your loved one can't simply choose to turn off. With time and treatment, they will get better, but it's a gradual process.


Read more at PTSD in the Family.




Mid-March 2014

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Mid-March '14

Healthy relationships depend on many things, including having fun, knowing how to read body language, and keeping your temper under control.


Play can connect you to others, helping you adapt and solve problems, at work, home, and in your relationships. Play also arouses curiosity, which leads to discovery and creativity. You're never too old to play and reap the benefits. Read How to Play and Boost Creativity to learn more.


It's well known that good communication is the foundation of any successful relationship, be it personal or professional. Read Nonverbal Communication for tips on how to correctly read body language and learn why nonverbal communication matters.


If you have a hot temper, you may feel like it's out of your hands and there's little you can do to tame the beast. But you have more control over your anger than you think. Read Anger Management to better understand your anger warning signs and triggers.


Here's to you having a healthier, happier life!

How to Boost your Health and Creativity

Play and Creativity


Play is often described as a time when we feel most alive, yet we often take it for granted and may completely forget about it. But play isn't a luxury—it's a necessity. Sharing joy, laughter, and fun with others promotes bonding and strengthens a sense of community. We can develop empathy, compassion, trust, and the capacity for intimacy through regular play.


Play teaches us how to manage and transform our "negative" emotions and experiences. It supercharges learning, helps us relieve stress, and inspires us to create and solve problems.


Read more at How to Play and Boost Creativity.


Reading Body Language

Nonverbal CommunicationWhat comes out of our mouths and what we communicate through our body language can be two totally different things. When faced with these mixed signals, the listener has to choose whether to believe the verbal or nonverbal message. In most cases, they're going to choose the nonverbal because it's a natural, unconscious language that broadcasts our true feelings and intentions in any given moment.


What is your body language telling people? Read more at Nonverbal Communication.


Getting Your Anger Under Control

Anger Management

The emotion of anger is neither good nor bad. It's perfectly healthy and normal to feel angry when you've been mistreated or wronged. The feeling isn't the problem—it's what you do with it that makes a difference. Anger becomes a problem when it harms you or others.


In order to get your needs met and express your anger in appropriate ways, you need to be in touch with what you are really feeling.


To learn more, read Anger Management.




March 2014

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Helpguide's Healthy Lifestyle Newsletter

March '14

March is National Nutrition Month, making it the perfect time to improve your eating habits.


While peer pressure and TV commercials for junk food can make getting kids to eat well seem impossible, there are steps parents can take to instill healthy eating habits without turning mealtimes into a battle zone. Find out more by reading Nutrition for Children and Teens.


For women at any age, committing to a healthy diet will help you stay on top of your commitments and enjoy life. Read Diet & Nutrition for Women for tips to eating right so you can look and feel your best.


Thinking about cutting fats out of your diet? Read Choosing Healthy Fats to learn about the latest controversy in the good fats vs. bad fats debate.


Here's to you having a healthier, happier life!

Steering Kids Away from Junk Food

Nutrition for Children


Children develop a natural preference for the foods they enjoy the most, so the challenge is to make healthy choices appealing. Of course, no matter how good your intentions, it's always going to be difficult to convince your eight-year-old that an apple is as sweet a treat as a cookie. However, you can ensure that your children's diet is as nutritious and wholesome as possible, even while allowing for some of their favorite treats.


By encouraging healthy eating habits now, you can make a huge impact on your children's lifelong relationship with food and give them the best opportunity to grow into healthy, confident adults.


Encourage healthy eating habits now!


Good Nutrition for Women of All Ages

Nutrition for WomenGood nutrition starts with the basics: a well-rounded diet consisting of whole grains, fresh fruits and vegetables, healthy fats, and lean sources of protein. These kinds of foods provide women with plenty of energy, the means for lifelong weight control, and the key ingredients for looking and feeling great at any age.


Read more at Diet & Nutrition for Women.


Fats: the Good, the Bad, and the Questionable

Choosing Healthy Fats

Not all fats are created equal. Bad fats, such as trans fats, can cause weight gain, clogged arteries, and other health problems, while good fats like omega-3s can have the opposite effect. Then there are the “questionable fats.” Despite what we've been told, some saturated fats—long derided as bad fats—may not be so bad after all, at least when eaten in moderation. Despite its high saturated fat content, coconut oil for example, is gaining popularity as a health food that can boost energy and endurance.


With so many different sources of dietary fat—some good, some bad, some questionable—how are you supposed to make sense of your choices?


Read on to learn more about Choosing Healthy Fats.




Mid-February 2014

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Helpguide's Healthy Lifestyle Newsletter

Mid-Feb. '14

With the arrival of Valentine's Day comes a lot of feelings on love, relationships, dating, and meeting new people.


Dr. Jeanne Segal, co-creator and Editorial Director of Helpguide.org, has recently published an inspiring book about the power of feeling loved and making others feel loved in Feeling Loved: Finding Happiness in an Overstressed World.


If you're hoping to strengthen your current relationship, read Relationship Help. If you're looking to make new friends or find a new partner, read How to Make Friends or How to Finding Lasting Love.


Here's to you having a healthier, happier life!

Feeling Loved: Nature's Anecdote to Stress

Feeling Loved

Technology has improved so many aspects of our lives. Yet, it's common to see two people sitting together, texting frantically on their smartphones instead of enjoying each other's company.


What we've lost in our plugged-in, fast-paced world is the lasting satisfaction that comes with feeling loved. This experience is not just something we want—it's something we need to beat stress, stay well, connect to others, and find happiness.


In Feeling Loved: Finding Happiness in an Overstressed World, Helpguide's co-founder, Dr. Jeanne Segal offers a groundbreaking new vision of the steps we can take to make feeling loved in our chaotic world a permanent part of our lives.


Get the book, and start changing your life today!


Strengthening Your Loving Relationship

Relationship HelpA healthy, happy and satisfying relationship is good for your health, mind, and connections with others. Sometimes, we all need advice on how to strengthen our relationships and keep them going strong. So, the question is, how do you keep your relationship meaningful, fulfilling, and exciting in good times and in bad?


Find out at Relationship Help.


Making New Friends

Making New Friends

Good friends add a special meaning to life. They help you enjoy the good times and overcome the difficult ones. While strong relationships with friends can be a huge source of fun and pleasure, they are also important for your physical and emotional health.


Read on to learn more about How to Make Friends.


Finding Lasting Love

Finding Lasting Love

Life as a single person offers many rewards, including learning how to build a healthy relationship with yourself. However, if you're ready to share your life with someone and want to build a lasting, worthwhile relationship, life as a single person can also be very frustrating. Finding the right romantic partner is often a difficult journey, for several reasons.


Read on to learn more about How to Find Lasting Love.



February 2014

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Helpguide's Healthy Lifestyle Newsletter

Feb. '14

With winter now in full swing, here are three articles to help you reduce stress, improve your diet, and jump start your exercise routine.


In Twelve Ways to Reduce Stress with Music, Frank Fitzpatrick, award-winning filmmaker, producer and songwriter, shows how music can make you happier and more balanced.


The Mediterranean Diet has been connected to lowering the risk of heart attacks and strokes, and some studies have suggested the diet can even slow or prevent memory loss.


Exercise and Fitness over 50 gives you tips for building a balanced exercise plan. The concepts apply to people of all ages.


Here's to you having a healthier, happier life!


How to Use Music to Reduce Stress


Music has the ability to quickly shift our mood, affecting our subconscious mind where pesky negative thoughts feed on our fears and fuel the fires of stress. Listening to music is a relatively inexpensive, quick-acting solution that's almost always available, and it could just save your day from being overwhelmed by stress.


Read on to discover 12 different ways you can use music in your daily routine to help manage stress and create more joy in your life.


Myths, Facts, & Health Benefits of a Mediterranean Diet

The Mediterranean DietA traditional Mediterranean diet consisting of large quantities of fresh fruits and vegetables, nuts, fish and olive oil&mdashcoupled with physical activity&mdashreduces the risk of heart disease, certain cancers, diabetes, Parkinson's and Alzheimer's diseases.


The Mediterranean Diet


Exercise Plans to Get Fit as You Age

Exercise and Fitness Over 50

No matter your age or your current physical condition, you can benefit from exercise. Reaping the rewards of exercise doesn't require strenuous workouts or trips to the gym. It's about adding more movement and activity to your life, even in small ways. Whether you are generally healthy or are managing an illness&mdasheven if you're housebound&mdashthere are many easy ways to get your body moving and improve your health.


Read Exercise and Fitness Over 50 to learn more.



January 2014

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Helpguide Newsletter

Jan. '14

Welcome to Helpguide's Healthy Lifestyle News, a periodic newsletter focusing on information and developments in stress management, diet, sleep, relationships, and other topics you can use to live a healthier, happier life.


In this issue, we focus on stress and depression and how you can start to take control of your life through our expert articles and redesigned self-help toolkit. Have a safe, productive, and happy week.

Relieve Stress & Bring Your Life Into Balance


Every day at Helpguide, we hear from people who feel overwhelmed by stress, family, work and relationship problems, health challenges, and painful emotions. They've read our articles and learned that they can do things to help themselves feel better, but they just can't seem to follow through, or what they've done hasn't helped them enough.


To help you follow through with your intentions, we've completely redesigned our Emotional Self-Help Toolkit, a free online program that helps you relieve stress and bring your life into balance. Each of the five steps build on the skills learned in a previous step, and you see benefits and improvements almost immediately. And because it's online and free, you can progress at your own pace.


Start Now!


Self-help and coping tips to overcome depression

Dealing with Depression: Self-Help and Coping Tips to Overcome DepressionDepression often isn't something you can beat through sheer willpower; it requires action that starts small and focused, and steps that include challenging negative thinking and taking care of yourself. Read on to find out what you can do to feel better.


Dealing with Depression: Self-Help and Coping Tips to Overcome Depression


How can you tell if you're stressed?

Stress Symptoms, Signs & Causes

Stress is a normal physical response to events that make you feel threatened or upset your balance in some way. The stress response is the body's way of protecting you, but beyond a certain point, stress stops being helpful and starts causing major damage to your health, your mood, your productivity, your relationships, and your quality of life..

Read on to learn more about stress, its signs and causes, and what to do about it.


Stress Symptoms, Signs, and Causes





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