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Depression in Women

Recognize the Signs and Symptoms and Find Lasting Relief

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Depression can drain you of energy and hope, leaving you feeling empty, sad, and helpless. And, for women, depression is complicated by many factors―from reproductive hormones and social pressures to the unique female response to stress. No matter how bleak things seem, though, there’s a lot you can do to change the way you think and feel. You can’t just will yourself to “snap out of it,” but you do have more control than you realize. By taking small but important steps, you can start to feel better and regain your drive, your sense of hope, and your enjoyment of life.

Understanding depression in women

While depression can impact every area of a woman’s life—including your physical health, social life, relationships, career, and sense of self-worth—it’s important to know that you’re not alone. According to the National Mental Health Association, about one in every eight women will experience depression symptoms at some point during their lifetime. But depression is treatable and there are plenty of things you can do to make yourself feel better.

Of course, the Catch-22 of depression is that feeling better requires action, but taking action when you’re depressed is difficult. However, while you may not have much energy, you probably have enough to take a short walk around the block or pick up the phone to call a loved one, for example—and that can be a great start to boosting your mood and improving your outlook. It’s important to also learn about the factors that cause depression in women so you can tackle the condition head on, and treat your depression most effectively, and help prevent it from coming back.

Signs and symptoms of depression in women

The symptoms of depression in women vary from mild to severe or major depression and are distinguished by the impact they have on your ability to function. Most depression is mild or moderately disabling and responds well to self-help. Common symptoms include:

  • Depressed mood
  • Loss of interest or pleasure in activities you used to enjoy
  • Lack of energy and fatigue
  • Feelings of guilt, hopelessness and worthlessness
  • Appetite and weight changes
  • Sleep changes (sleeping more or sleeping less)
  • Difficulty concentrating
  • Suicidal thoughts or recurrent thoughts of death

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Depression symptoms more common in women

Women tend to experience certain depression symptoms more often than men. These include: Seasonal affective disorder, depression in the winter months due to lower levels of sunlight. Symptoms of atypical depression, where rather than sleeping less, eating less, and losing weight, you experience the opposite: sleeping excessively, eating more ( especially carbohydrates), and gaining weight. Feelings of guilt associated with depression are also more prevalent and pronounced in women. Thyroid problems. Since hypothyroidism can cause depression, this medical problem should always be ruled out by a physician.

Differences between male and female depression
Women tend to: Men tend to:

Blame themselves

Blame others

Feel sad, apathetic, and worthless

Feel angry, irritable, and ego inflated

Feel anxious and scared

Feel suspicious and guarded

Avoid conflicts at all costs

Create conflicts

Feel slowed down and nervous

Feel restless and agitated

Have trouble setting boundaries

Need to feel in control at all costs

Find it easy to talk about self-doubt and despair

Find it “weak” to admit self-doubt or despair

Use food, friends, and "love" to self-medicate

Use alcohol, TV, sports, and sex to self-medicate

Source: Male Menopause by Jed Diamond

Causes of depression in women

Across all racial, ethnic, and economic divides, women are about twice as likely as men to suffer from depression. This may be down to a number of different psychological, social and biological factors.

Psychological causes

Focusing on and rehashing negative feelings - Women are more likely to ruminate when they are depressed. This includes crying to relieve emotional tension, trying to figure out why you're depressed, and talking to your friends about your depression. However, rumination has been found to maintain depression and even make it worse. Men, on the other hand, tend to distract themselves when they are depressed, which can reduce depression.

Overwhelming stress at work, school, or home - Some studies show that women are more likely than men to develop depression from stress. Furthermore, the female physiological response to stress is different. Women produce more stress hormones than men do, and the female sex hormone progesterone prevents the stress hormone system from turning itself off as it does in men.

Body image issues - The gender difference in depression begins in adolescence. The emergence of sex differences during puberty likely plays a role. Some researchers point to body dissatisfaction, which increases in girls during the sexual development of puberty.

Social causes

As with men, social factors can also play a part in causing depression in women, along with lifestyle choices, relationships, and coping skills. These may include:

  • Marital or relationship problems; balancing the pressures of career and home life
  • Family responsibilities such as caring for children, spouse, or aging parents
  • Experiencing discrimination at work or not reaching important goals, losing or changing a job, retirement, or embarking on military service.
  • Persistent money problems
  • Death of a loved one or other stressful life event that leaves you feeling useless, helpless, alone, or profoundly sad

Biological and hormonal causes

Premenstrual problems - Hormonal fluctuations during the menstrual cycle can cause the familiar symptoms of premenstrual syndrome (PMS), such as bloating, irritability, fatigue, and emotional reactivity. For many women, PMS is mild but for some women, symptoms are more severe and disabling and may warrant a diagnosis of premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD). PMDD is characterized by severe depression, irritability, and other mood disturbances beginning about 10 to 14 days before your period and improving within a few days of its start.

Pregnancy and infertility - The many hormonal changes that occur during pregnancy can contribute to depression, particularly in women already at high risk. Other issues relating to pregnancy such as miscarriage, unwanted pregnancy, and infertility can also play a role in depression.

Postpartum depression - It's not uncommon for new mothers to experience the "baby blues." This is a normal reaction that tends to subside within a few weeks. However, some women experience severe, lasting depression. This condition is called postpartum depression and is thought to be influenced, at least in part, by hormonal fluctuations.

Perimenopause and menopause - Women may be at increased risk for depression during perimenopause, the stage leading to menopause when reproductive hormones rapidly fluctuate. Women with past histories of depression are at an increased risk of depression during menopause as well.

Health problems - Chronic illness, injury, or disability can lead to depression in women, as can crash dieting or quitting smoking.

Medication side effects - Mood-related side effects can occur from birth control medication or hormone replacement therapy.

Compensating for biological and hormonal causes of depression

Because biology and hormone fluctuations can play such a prominent role in affecting a women's depression, it may be helpful to make use of more coping strategies at hormonal low points during the month. Try keeping a log of where you are in your menstrual cycle and how you are feeling—physically and emotionally. This way you will be able to better anticipate when you need to compensate for the hormonal lows and reduce or avoid the resulting symptoms. It is important to remember that depression, at any stage in life and for any reason, is serious and should be taken seriously. Just because you’ve been told that your symptoms are a “normal” part of being a woman does not mean you have to suffer in silence. There are many things you can do to treat your depression and feel better.

Coping tips for depression in women

You can make a huge dent in your depression with simple but powerful self-help steps. Feeling better takes time and effort when you don’t feel like making an effort. But you can get there if you make positive choices for yourself each day and draw on the support of others.

Talk face-to-face to someone who’s a good listener. Share what you're going through with the people you love and trust. Ask for the help and support you need—it can make all the difference in your recovery. You may have avoided your most treasured relationships, but they can get you through this tough time. If you don't feel that you have anyone to confide in, you can find help to build new friendships—even if you’re shy or introverted.

Try to keep up with social activities even if you don't feel like it. When you're depressed, it feels more comfortable to retreat into your shell. But being around other people will make you feel less depressed.

Get up and moving. Studies show that regular exercise can be as effective as antidepressant medication at increasing energy levels and decreasing feelings of fatigue. You don't even have to hit the gym. A 30-minute walk each day will give you a much-needed boost. And if you can't manage 30 minutes, three 10-minute bursts of movement throughout the day are just as effective.

Get a little sunlight every day. Sunlight can help boost your mood. Take a short walk outdoors, have your coffee outside, enjoy an al fresco meal, people-watch on a park bench, or sit out in the garden. Aim for at least 15 minutes of sunlight a day. If you live somewhere with little winter sunshine, try using a light therapy box.

Aim for 8 to 9 hours of sleep. Depression typically involves sleep problems. Whether you're sleeping too little or too much, your mood will suffer. But you can get on a better sleep schedule by adopting healthy sleep habits.

Practice relaxation techniques. A daily relaxation practice can help relieve symptoms of depression, reduce stress, and boost feelings of joy and well-being. Try yoga, deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, or meditation.

Challenge negative thoughts. Depression puts a negative spin on everything, but you can replace negative thoughts with a more balanced way of thinking.. Make a note of every negative thought you have and what triggered it. For each negative, write down something positive. For example, “My boss hates me. He gave me this difficult report to complete,” could be replaced with: “My boss must have a lot of faith in me to give me so much responsibility.”

Depression and relationships

An irritable mood brought on by depression can cause you to be critical of and harsh to your loved ones. It can cause you to lash out over situations that wouldn’t normally bother you. Depression can also cause you to feel empty or apathetic, which can result in you neglecting your most important relationships.

If you have children, taking care of yourself and regulating your mood during depressive episodes or hormonal lows is especially important. Studies show that being raised by a mother with untreated depression has a significant negative effect on a child’s social, emotional, and cognitive development.

How to quickly boost your mood

Mood booster 1: Exercise

Exercise is healthful right down to the cellular level. It improves circulation and nerve function, it helps to regulate mood, and it makes you feel better about yourself

Action steps: For a quick pick-me-up, try a medium- to high-intensity workout such as a brisk 30-minute walk, an aerobics class, or a game of tennis. For a remedy that will stay with you, go for a daily activity you can sustain, such as a daily lower-intensity walk.

Mood booster 2: Meditate

Meditating produces brain changes that promote positive emotions and reduce negative emotions such as fear and anger. It can lower your heart rate, blood pressure, breathing rate, oxygen consumption, adrenaline levels, and levels of cortisol, a hormone released in response to stress.

Action steps: Many health centers offer meditation classes. Sign up for one, or consider taking yoga, which combines physical and mental practices. If it's hard for you to get to a class, look for a guided meditation book, CD, website, or smartphone app, which can introduce you to meditation practice.

Mood booster 3: Socialize

Being isolated can lead to loneliness, which can make you sad. Spending time with others helps improve mood. We're wired to be social. Focusing on others can move you off a preoccupation with self-defeating thoughts.

Action steps: Avoid isolation. Get together with a friend, family member, or group at least once a month. Visit with friends at home. Get out of your house, go to a movie, or check out an art exhibit. If you don't have someone to spend time with, go to church or take a class.

Mood booster 4: Find purpose

Dedicating time to a meaningful activity improves mood, reduces stress, and keeps you mentally sharp. The activity can be as simple as taking up a new hobby or volunteering your time. You worry less about every little ache and pain in your own life when you move the focus to a new interest.

Action steps: Volunteer for a library, hospital, school, day care center, or charitable group. Tutor neighborhood kids. Babysit. Contact the chamber of commerce to mentor young business people. Take up gardening, painting, dancing, or gourmet cooking.

Adapted with permission from Harvard Health Letter , a newsletter published by Harvard Health Publications.

Dietary changes to ease depression symptoms

Some women find dietary modifications, nutritional supplements and herbal remedies can help aid in the relief of depression symptoms. These include:

  • Cutting back on salt, unhealthy fats, caffeine, simple carbohydrates, and alcohol and eating more complex carbohydrates can help improve depression symptoms.
  • Eating more Omega-3 fatty acids can boost your mood. The best sources are fatty fish (salmon, herring, mackerel, anchovies, sardines), seaweed, flaxseed, and walnuts.
  • Avoid deficiencies in B vitamins which can trigger depression. Eat more citrus fruit, leafy greens, beans, chicken, and eggs.
  • Vitamin B-6, calcium, magnesium, Vitamin E, and tryptophan have all been shown to benefit women suffering from PMDD
  • Evening primrose oil and chaste tree berry are herbal supplements that have been found to be effective in the treatment of PMDD.

Professional treatment for depression in women

If you don't benefit sufficiently from self-help treatments, seek help from a mental health professional. While women suffering from depression respond to the same types of treatment as men, specific aspects of treatment are often modified for women. Women are also more likely to require simultaneous treatment for other conditions such as anxiety or eating disorders.

Medication. Antidepressant medication may help relieve some symptoms of depression in women, but it won’t cure the underlying problem. Because of female biological differences, women are generally started on lower doses of antidepressants than men. Women are also more likely to experience side effects, so any medication use should be closely monitored. Don't rely on a doctor who is not trained in mental health for guidance on medication, and remember that medication works best when you make healthy lifestyle changes as well.

Therapy. Talk therapy is an extremely effective treatment for depression in women. It can provide you with the skills and insight to relieve depression symptoms and help prevent depression from coming back. One of the most important things to consider when choosing a therapist is your connection with this person. The right therapist will be a caring and supportive partner in your depression treatment and recovery.

Related articles

Depression Symptoms and Warning Signs: Recognizing Depression and Getting the Help You Need

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Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD): Recognizing and Treating the Winter Blues

Helping Someone with Depression: Taking Care of Yourself While Supporting a Loved One

Resources and references

General information about depression in women

Depression in women: Understanding the gender gap – Explore the unique biological, psychosocial, and cultural factors that may increase a woman’s risk for depression. (Mayo Clinic)

Mood Disorders and the Reproductive Cycle – Review how changing levels of female reproductive hormones over the life cycle can impact depression. Includes information about estrogen, thyroid impairment, and the effect of oral contraceptives. (HealthyPlace)

More Women Suffer Depression – Article looks into some of the reasons why women around the world are more susceptible to depression than men. (Psychology Today)

Premenstrual dysphoric disorder and perimenopausal depression

PMS & PMDD – Learn about premenstrual mood changes, including the symptoms and treatment of premenstrual dysphoric disorder. (Massachusetts General Hospital, Center for Women’s Health)

Menstrually Related Mood Disorders – A guide to the mood disorders and depression-related symptoms associated with the menstrual cycle. (UNC School of Medicine, Center for Women’s Mood Disorders)

Depression During the Transition to Menopause: A Guide for Patients and Families (PDF) – Explore the symptoms and treatment of perimenopausal depression.

Diagnosis and Treatment of Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder – Comprehensive article geared towards medical professionals. Learn about treatment options including therapy, medications, lifestyle changes, herbal treatments, and nutritional supplements. (American Academy of Family Physicians)

Pregnancy and depression

Antidepressants: Safe during pregnancy? – Uncover the risks of taking antidepressants during pregnancy. Learn which antidepressants are safer than other and what can happen if you stop taking your medication during pregnancy. (Mayo Clinic)

Psychiatric Disorders During Pregnancy – Covers the risks associated with taking antidepressants and other psychiatric medications during pregnancy. (Massachusetts General Hospital, Center for Women’s Health)

Depression in adolescent and teenage girls

Mood Disorders and Teenage Girls – Discusses why girls are more vulnerable to mood disorders and what signs and symptoms you should look for in adolescent girls. (Child Mind Institute)

References for depression in women

Differences between Male and Female depression – Quotes Jed Diamond’s book Male Menopause to illustrate the differences. (Healthy Place)

Authors: Melinda Smith, M.A., Lawrence Robinson, and Jaelline Jaffe, Ph.D. Last updated: October 2017.